We all have control issues in one form or another, but some are way worse than others on the control front. It can become very hard to let go, and trust that doing something new will work out for the best. Sometimes though life will not only give us subtle signs about change, sometimes it will hit us in the face, and beat us over the head with it, because the universe, God, or whatever you believe in knows that now is the time for change. It is easy for us to want to fight against these signs, and say “I do what I want”, but staying where we are when we have these huge signs saying its time to move on, but in most instances staying in that spot will put you in a worse situation then moving on, which is why the universe is sending you those signs in the first place. We cannot be in control all the time and be able to truly enjoy life, and get the best out of life without letting go and trusting on occasion.
I am pretty sure we all have them…The Ghosts of Christmas Past. They are the lingering things you have in your life that make you resent the holidays, your family, and many, many other things. You must heal from these things in your own way, and sometimes with the help of a professional to deal with these problems. I am dealing with my own ghosts, and a lot of times when I write my auroraisms it is a lesson I am currently learning, or a lesson I see someone else learning. In Christmas’ past I have lost a pregnancy, a cousin, went through divorces, a stalker, and many many MANY bad things through the holidays, and after losing my ex back in late August, and seeing the pain in my children I almost didnt want to celebrate this year either. However, I have found that celebrating actually is a good positive way to help you heal. Talk about the bad things to others, or if its due to lost loved ones talk about past holidays with them to other grieving family members. Talk to your lost loved one as though they were right there listening to you. Think about the positive holiday you want to have instead of dwelling on the ghosts…this is the best way to defeat them.
Last weekend I enjoyed my trip to New Hope Pennsylvania. I had a terrific show, and met several very cool people. I felt very blessed to go on this trip, and be able to help people on deeper levels. My life coaching skills are kicking in very big, and helping me use my abilities to know what people need to hear to become the best people they can be, however, it is up to them to take that intuitive counseling to heart, and use it to grow. I can tell them where to go, and what to do, but I cannot force them to do it. Its the whole leading the horse to water thing, but I think I am learning as much myself as my clients are, which is helping me become a better person. I hope I continue to learn and grow, and truly appreciate the gift I have been given. Blessings to all.
I’ve recently been running into people from my past, as in 15 years ago past. Nostalgia is great and all that, but not all of these people are ones I really wanted to reconnect with, but I thought hey we are all adults now, so surely they are different people now. For those of you who dont know I am 34 now, yes ancient I know…so 15 years ago would put me at 19 years old. For anyone over the age of 26 we know that 19 is still essentially a child. A lot of maturity for most people happens after the age of 23 and progresses rapidly as life happens until about the age of 27-29 this is not a psychological description its more of an observation I have noticed, so most people will identify with that statement. Okay enough rambling…so I have ran into these people, and after speaking with them, I have found that they are exactly the same people they were 15 years ago, the same obsessions, and the same thought processes, all of it…its like they are still that age! I dont think the same way I did at 19 I just thought it was a normal part of maturity, if this is the case then I really do think evolution just passes right over some people. As humans we are not only meant to evolve as a whole, we are meant to evolve as individuals. This has been a powerful lesson to me, as I have been kind of looking down on myself lately, believing that because I am not rich, or what have you that I havent done much with my life, but seeing these people being completely content with the maturity level of a 20 year old, or younger makes me realize that personal growth and improvement have absolutely nothing to do with what your job is, or how much money you have, but has everything to do with your emotions, your understanding of the world, and your overall wisdom. If your life, and your thoughts are still what they were when you were 20 you seriously need to re-evaluate yourself, and see if perhaps you are contributing to the decline of humanity or not. No one should be happy being stuck.
I am going to step on some toes with this one, so I apologize in advance…wait…no I dont! Okay social media, and texting has improved our lives in many ways, but I feel it has caused far too many people to devolve, and become very dependent on constant communication with others. First off texting was not meant for a conversation. It was meant for saying a few things that did not seem relevant enough to call about, such as, bring home some milk. Texting is far more time consuming than a phone call when used for a conversation, yet people want the instant gratification of someone answering them immediately. Newsflash!!! If it is that important for you to communicate with that person CALL THEM! Second of all people think that if they see you online on facebook and they send you a message that you should instantly reply or should do so with in a few minutes. Sometimes people are not online even when they are showing online, especially with the advent of the smartphone. People have lives and cannot always be online or glued to their phones. Honestly take some stock of your life, if it is this necessary for you to have communication with people, and be this needy perhaps you need to love yourself more, and find ways to be happy with your own company. If you are not happy being just with yourself, you will never be able to be happy with others.
Okay for number 11, we are going to discuss break ups. A lot of times in break ups we mistake the grief we feel of the loss of the relationship for continued love. The truth is what you are grieving, and what you were in love with was what and who you thought the person was, and who you wanted to believe they were…not what and who they actually were. When someone leaves you what you usually remember is the good times that you are missing, and all the ideas and dreams you had for that relationship. However, sometimes if you look back you will see signs that, that person was not really who they represented themselves as, or signs that they could never be faithful, or a good person deep down. If a person never publicly wanted to be with you, and kept you as their “dirty little secret” they were never really yours. If a person treated you like crap often, then chances are if that relationship would have lasted, their crap treating would have gotten worse. God, the universe or whoever you believe in has someone special for you, so go ahead, and grieve, but remember you really arent grieving the person, you are grieving the idea.
Okay so this is not an auroraism, day though I assure you more are to follow. After life coaching a couple, a lot of things dawned on me. See a lot of people dont understand that us psychics, and life coaches sometimes learn as much from you guys as you learn from us. In this particular case the woman was cheating on the husband, and then left the husband, but the guy didnt really want her as a permanent thing, but the husband was still very much in love with her. It took almost a month after she left him for him to find out about the affair, but instead of getting upset and walking away, he wanted to see if there was a way to fix this, and sure enough there was. There is a lot more behind the scenes here that I am not telling due to confidentiality, but that is okay. Long story short both people found that they were now different people after 20 years together, but neither of them knew the new person the other was. So once I showed them its like a new relationship all over again.
I get a lot of calls on a regular basis about a person who is cheating, or wanting to cheat on their spouse, because they think the grass is greener with someone else. How about using some open communication, and finding new ways to love the one you are with. You could find that the person you have been looking for has been with you this whole time, you just refused to try.
Auroraisms is a new phenomenon, that I created, I know its egotistical, but sometimes I have these great thoughts that must come out, and you all are blessed enough to get these random thoughts. Yes I do realize that was a long ass run on sentence. Anyway an auroraism is like a rant, only with a large amount of wisdom, and either a hint or a huge splash of sarcasm thrown in for comic relief. You can find auroraisms here, and on my facebook. Today we are going to discuss auroraism #10 which is about letting go of control. Sometimes it doesnt hurt to let “Jesus take the wheel” so to speak. I am preaching to the choir on this one, which is actually usually the case with an auroraism, but not always. Letting go, and letting God is probably the hardest thing I have ever been through, and in all honesty its something I am still going through. We live in a world where we feel we must control everything, and we have a much higher rate of people with OCD’s tha we did 50 years ago. A major problem many face is that if they arent in constant control they dont know what to expect, and sometimes not knowing is scarier than bad news. Its in this time though that we can learn a lot. Sometimes we actually create our on chaos by holding on too tightly. When we hold on to things too tightly it suffocates what you are holding onto. Letting go of control, and not worrying and believing that God, the Universe, the Goddess…whatever you believe in will come to your rescue when times are at their worst, and seem to have no positive outcome, you can actually end up in a better place than you originally imagined, or you may find that God, the Universe, etc are leading you down a new path, that has major learning lessons for you. Sometimes even the best psychics cannot guide you in these times, because they are your learning lessons, and if psychics are guiding you, you arent learning…its like cheating on your homework. You are also sending negative energy into the atomosphere. Its like telling the universe you want to have problems and chaos and worry. So letting go, being patient, and having even a small amount of faith can cause things to turn around in positive ways that you never imagined.
I give guidance to many people, and it is no secret that most contact me about love and relationships. Due to my abilities I also tend to notice patterns in relationships, emotions, and so much more. Some insight I would like to pass on to all of you is this. If you cannot be happy alone then you will not be happy in a relationship. Sure at first it will be an escape from the insecurities, and the self deprecating thoughts you are having, but once the romantic period fades, you are now left with all those emotions once more, but also so much more. Contrary to popular belief jumping into a new relationship after a broken heart is not the best way to mend your heart. It just serves as a band aid. A very temporary issue. In order to find a successful relationship after a bad break up you must first heal yourself. This can be very difficult yes, I realize that. Time, however, does heal all wounds. Sure you may have a scar from that wound, but scars remind us the past is real…just ask Papa Roach…lol, okay seriously now… The past changes us, it depends on us how we allow that change to affect us. We can choose to learn and grow from it, or we can get in a hamster wheel and just keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again. So please people allow yourself to heal, find out who you are as a person so that you can find a meaningful relationship later on. A person doesnt need another person to be complete. They need to feel content with themselves in order to have successful meaningful relationships.